Vacations and the cloud of dissatisfaction

Vacations are one of the most eagerly anticipated times of the year. We spend an entire year working, stuck in our daily routines: stress, obligations, not enough time for anything… As the holidays approach, we feel excited. We make plans, think about what we want to do most, and our faces light up with anticipation. We arrive at our vacation destination, and everything is joy and smiles. We love each other, and the atmosphere feels perfect. But… as the days go by, why is it that, in many cases, this ideal environment starts to fade, and a “cloud of dissatisfaction” begins to hover over us?

Human beings are creatures of habit. It’s well known that we adapt to our environment, though some may find it harder than others. Once we’ve settled into the beach or mountain house, or embarked on the big trip, after a few days with the same people, the “cloud of dissatisfaction” can creep in. Sometimes we’re aware of this cloud, and other times we’re not. I’m not saying it happens to everyone, but it is a common issue. I’m also not saying we’re truly dissatisfied, but a small gray cloud begins to form over us because the novelty—the excitement of the arrival, the change, and the new experiences—has already passed.

At other times, what makes us uncomfortable during vacations is the sense of stillness. Since we live in a fast-paced routine, especially in big cities, tranquility can feel foreign to us. We may enjoy the slower pace for the first few days, but sometimes that calm turns into a nagging sense of “something’s missing,” and the “cloud of dissatisfaction” starts to loom.

Another cause of the cloud of dissatisfaction is how we manage our expectations for our plans, as discussed in the post from two weeks ago. As I mentioned, fewer but better plans are preferable, leaving room for spontaneity to take the lead.

We all know that shared time can lead to friction. At first, we’re thrilled to share the trip, the house, the beach… It’s all smiles, hugs, and kisses. But without knowing why, the joy and good vibes begin to plateau, and in some cases, differences arise, even leading to disagreements or arguments.

Here, I propose several tips to ensure the “cloud of dissatisfaction” doesn’t overshadow your vacation:

1. Be aware of your expectations: If you have them, make sure they’re realistic and have alternatives in case things don’t go as planned.

2. Reflect daily on how you feel: If you feel good, take a moment to appreciate the experience, the company, the food… Gratitude helps us connect with our positive side and focus on what we have instead of what we want.

3. If the cloud is already near, pause and think about what’s starting to bother you or make you uncomfortable. Once you identify it, ask yourself: Can I change it? Can I have a conversation to improve the situation?

4. If tranquility feels overwhelming, try going for more walks, exercising, swimming, or playing with the kids. Healthy activity can help a lot.

   
   

Ultimately, being mindful of when the cloud of dissatisfaction is approaching can make a huge difference in how your vacation turns out. Once the cloud turns black and starts to thunder and rain, it’s much harder to deal with. Remember: vacations only come once a year, and enjoying them to the fullest depends on many factors—but also on you.

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Melinda Sánchez Coach

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